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The kids I’ve met with the lowest self-esteem and the least self-control are those who either have never experienced boundaries or whose parents use punishment as the only means of communicating boundaries.
Such parents tend to shift their punishment (and the boundaries) based on how their own day is going or how frustrated they are with life, their spouse, or their children.
Within the safety of the fences, the horse has the freedom to roam and even push up against the fences. Thank goodness teens are learning how to reason, so establishing boundaries and consequences will help them make better choices, versus the need for parental hovering, hand-holding, or physical barriers.
As you develop boundaries, I encourage you to make it a family project.
How and where the teen drives within those boundaries is up to them, as long as they follow other imposed boundaries, such as traffic laws.
We all have boundaries in our lives, so teens need to get accustomed to them.
When they learn that you are serious about enforcing the consequences, they’ll become serious about maturing. It is simply knowing how to live successfully within the boundaries we all have in life.
Responsibility and a feeling of self-control begin with a child knowing and understanding the breadth of their choices within those boundaries.
They can dress how they want, but as soon as that clothing becomes immodest, they are stepping over a boundary, the modesty boundary.
If what they wear breaks the school’s dress code, they are stepping over the school’s boundaries.
Likewise, when a teen is allowed to drive the car, perhaps they are told they must be home by dark, not have any other teens in the car, and they must not drive any further than a certain distance away from home.
Those qualifications for the use of the car are boundaries.